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Love & sexuality

How about sexuality?

from “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
(Geert Crevits) © Mayil.com

Love will reveal and bring things out. This is how it differs from, for instance, sexuality without love. Sexuality belongs to an exterior sphere and not to an inner sphere, but goes from the exterior to the inner. This is to say that sexuality is always trying to go further, to delve deeper, and that it actually yearns to search, to find the self.

It takes two to cover this distance

Within sexuality there is always the question, “And what about me? How can I fulfill my needs? How should it happen so that I can experience it?”

For there is always a ‘more’ which you know is there but when you are together that ‘more’ suddenly disappears. You can’t find it, you can’t find the peace that you know should be there. There is a way to travel, a distance to cover within sexuality and it takes two to cover this distance. There is a polarity present, a reality that is, once again, actually being acted, and in acting one can discover what the self ought to be. 

You see the parallel between the great exterior reality and the sexuality because there is a very clear analogy here. There is good reason why the whole of life is pervaded, as it were, by sexuality. If you look all around you at the reality, then everywhere you will find this polarity, this attraction between the one and the other. And since you will always be confronted with it, it is important to know something about it. Otherwise you will not understand it.

If you look all around you at the reality, then everywhere you will find this polarity, this attraction between the one and the other. And since you will always be confronted with it, it is important to know something about it. Otherwise you will not understand it.

Sexuality is rhythm 

You may experience sexuality in yourself, albeit partially, because sexuality always leads to the other, to that which is different, to the greater, the wider, the vaster, even to the cosmic, as all of this makes up part of the sexual experience – provided that it is played in the right way, that is to say, if there is room for the self. 

This means that the 'I' must join in with the rhythm of the self. And love teaches us this.

Love teaches the harmony between opposites. Love teaches us that the self, say of a man, is able to vibrate with the self of a woman and that there in the depths of sexuality, once it bears love within itself, you can find an equal vibration with the same rhythm.

Every sexuality is rhythm. Often people don’t know this and from the start they begin at the wrong rhythm. You should realize that sexuality is, in fact, rhythm. In some ways a woman can understand this better than a man and in some ways a man can understand this better than a woman, and there you can already see the problem. The man thinks he knows what rhythm is and the woman thinks she knows what rhythm is but it is not coordinated. It is not attuned to each other and it is not real sexuality, for love is missing.

Sexuality without love is not real sexuality. Whenever love is not there to bring harmony, sexuality will always be disappointing.

So whenever love is not there to bring harmony, sexuality will always be disappointing. Without love no harmony is possible and therefore no profound satisfaction nor real contact. This contact may be an important one, for the sake of fertility, for instance, but nonetheless it will fall short in the realization of the individual. 

You should be aware that there is a long road to travel within sexuality, within the whole of the individual, of his being. Know that the human being is a divine being and that he is able to deal with energies that are always leading him further and further along.

You can learn to understand divinity through sexuality, but sexuality is not to be confused with divinity. It does not mean that because you are occupied with sexuality you are occupied with God.

In essence love brings an energy from the Divine. But a divine love is a different love from a love that is human. In every kind of love, whether it be sexuality, neighbourly love or divine love, in every kind of love there is divinity. You can learn to understand divinity through sexuality, but sexuality is not to be confused with divinity. It does not mean that because you are occupied with sexuality you are occupied with God. There is a difference.

Life is filled with divinity and reveals it at times. But if you want to reach God, you cannot do this through sexuality. There is a difference. You should see that sexuality has divinity in it but know that you cannot experience God through sexuality. Sexuality is another level entirely and yet still it has divinity in it.

Here, again, is the difficulty. Due to their misunderstanding of it, when talking about a certain subject, people tend to generalize in such a way that causes them to work with the wrong things. For example, people will assume that when they are together with someone and are not sexually engaged, they are, as it were, unable to find the Divine in each other. In this way people misuse sexuality in order, for instance, to fool themselves and to use sexuality in the wrong manner. 

The concept of polarity

A divine element that makes itself manifest in sexuality is the concept of polarity. Men and women find each other in sexuality, which means that men and women are sexual human beings.

Sexual ‘human beings’: I use these words deliberately, for much sexuality is not even human, even though people are able to experience sexuality in a human way. This ability is fairly new in the world, because very many people when approaching sexuality take their inspiration from animal life. This is very normal, you should be able to be what you are. If you are more animalistic then you should be able to experience this animal nature in sexuality and you should not be afraid that this might be wrong. It is a basic element and so is something reasonable for the human being to do, but it can and must go further.

Human sexuality is totally different from animal sexuality. Even though you might think that it’s the same, it is, in its essence, totally different. A human being can show affection in a manner that is animal-like. He can beget an idea that is human, but it is not because of his thinking that he experiences sexuality in the right manner. No, the contrary is true. Sexuality does not call for a plan that is then worked out; it should not be a project that is thought through and then carried out, because then it goes wrong. It is not easy to experience sexuality in the best manner, in a human manner. 

Human sexuality has everything to do with love and the power of love which is brought to life. 

A human manner does not mean that one thinks and plans beforehand, as opposed to animals who would not be capable of this. No, you shouldn’t see it this way. People are capable of bringing something entirely different to sexuality. Human sexuality has everything to do with love and the power of love which is brought to life within man. 


Love can be physical and still remain love

Love is a power that comes from the Divine, that can transpose itself, that can lower itself, so to speak, that can embrace a different vibration, that is able to descend all the way into the material and still stay love. 

So love can enter the lower levels of the physical, the emotions and the thoughts and completely permeate and transform them and this is the power of love. And this is the power of the human being, that he is capable of experiencing another love, another sexuality and physicality, another thinking and feeling which the animal cannot. And in this way the human being gains power in himself.

Love is a power that can enter the lower levels of the physical, the emotions and the thoughts and still stay love.

If a person lives with his sexuality in a new way, from out of a divinity that descends into the animal and then dares to be animal-like in a human way, in a divine way, only then can he begin to understand what true sexuality is. And yet I say that people who begin with sexuality and dare to be animal-like are also wrong. You can see how complex it all is." 

You can see how complex it all is. 

Master Morya

Master Morya

Geert Crevits © Mayil.com
Source: “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
from chapter 8: 'Love and sexuality (1)'

Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life

Love & sexuality

Sexuality without love?

from “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
(Geert Crevits) © Mayil.com

A relationship with a future

If you can live from the Divine, you will attract other children and it is important that you see this.

When young people are experiencing sexuality they should realize that they could actually be working with the Divine, with fertility, with the self and also with all the other facets in between. That is why it is something to discover in a playful yet responsible way and to be able to see the depth in it.

Don’t say to yourself, “Sex? Yes, now and then, in between other things,” and then again finding yourself looking forward to the next time, but never letting it reach a certain depth. This mustn’t happen, it must seek to go deeper. This is the reason that you should see sexuality as something within a relationship with a future. Provided you see it this way you will discover you can give it a greater power.

You should see sexuality as something within a relationship with a future, then you will discover you can give it a greater power.

When you go up the wrong street

People who engage in sex haphazardly will be left with a bitter aftertaste, for they will find out that it is, after all, not what they were looking for – that it is disappointing and confusing. And having become entangled you will have to untangle yourself.

If you engage in sex without love you are getting yourself entangled in something which you will not be able to get out of so quickly. You have gone up the wrong street. You may have had all kinds of experiences but you don’t know what to do with them because you don’t know where they are leading you. They hold no prospect and have no meaning or have a false meaning and then you find yourself in a struggle. You don’t know what to do and so you stop it.

Then it is like a brief fiery flame and it may even cause you to give up sex altogether for the rest of your life because you have approached it in the wrong way, because it falls away, and because you don’t dare live with it anymore. And that is regrettable because this creates a gap between individuals which makes them no longer able to show their affection for each other and therefore unable to express the longing that is within them in the right way. This creates an estrangement between many couples and among many people.

Having begun with sexuality in an incorrect manner, it can now find no outlet and no way of expression in everyday life – it has been set outside reality, since a wrong sort of energy has been introduced. 

Love always offers the solution and, even for people who were simply out for sex, it is never too late to learn what love is and this, too, can be very important for their sexuality." 

It is never too late to learn what love is.

Master Morya

Master Morya

Geert Crevits © Mayil.com
Source: “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
from chapter 9: 'About love and sexuality (2)'

Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life

Love & sexuality

Can sexuality combine with spirituality?

from “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
(Geert Crevits) © Mayil.com

Love opens the door to life. Love will seek the third within the relationship. It will bring the child. Love will reveal the Divine in what is present. Thus love will, time and time again, provide the energy that is important for the harmony between the two. Love does the work.

Love is what brings light to the darkness. Love is the energy that softens what is hard. Many people give up on sexuality because of their own inner hardness. Many games are played within a sexual context that have nothing to do with sexuality but have instead to do with provocation, scheming and the settling of scores, with hatred and jealousy and all manner of things. This turns love into a false game in which one does not know what it is to be loving or to experience sexuality.

Many hard games are played within a sexual context that have nothing to do with sexuality. This turns love into a false game.

That is why so much goes wrong with these sexual situations. Sexuality is a very sensitive matter, perhaps the most sensitive point between people and for it to join together with love, you will discover that you have a long way to travel, a journey of perhaps years before it is within your reach.

What you will then experience will be extraordinary, for then you will have at once found rest, peace and the Divine, the harmony in your life.

Sexuality is a very sensitive matter, perhaps the most sensitive point between people.

This means that you have journeyed such a long way that finally you can begin to imagine what it might be like to enter into the Divine together. This is something which has yet to be started with here on Earth. There are extremely few people who can experience sexuality within the Divine. It is not feasible, people often give up. This is a new issue that I once touched on and that I am again bringing up. Sexuality can go together with the Divine.

When the Divine is in your thoughts, when you live from out of the Divine, when you accept the energy from the Divine in your life, then sexuality can become an ecstasy that is as yet beyond comprehension on this Earth. It is something for the distant future."       

Sexuality can go together with the Divine. Then sexuality can become an ecstasy that is as yet beyond comprehension on this Earth. It is something for the distant future.

Master Morya

Master Morya

Geert Crevits © Mayil.com
Source: “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
from chapter 9: 'About love and sexuality (2)'

Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life

Love & sexuality

Are feelings different from love?

from “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
(Geert Crevits) © Mayil.com

Feelings vs. love

The world of feelings is an unstable one. If you live within this sphere then at one time you will feel like this and another time you will feel like that. You know this yourself. Feelings are always changing and there are no feelings that are always the same. You may have a certain experience and feel either like this or like that. 

But love is totally different. It stands above and transcends the feelings. From out of love you may experience sexuality and then it is what it is. But your love is as a result neither greater nor lesser and that is the whole difference.

Thus you can experience the same sexuality but in a relaxed manner which makes for a totally different experience, a deeper experience that is directed both towards the other who is with you and towards the child that you may be attracting because you want it. Fertility, people and real contact – these things too are part of sexuality. All these are very important moments in life and they are all fostered by sexuality. You might say that sexuality gives nourishment to them.

The world of feelings is an unstable one. You may have a certain experience and feel either like this or like that. 

Love is totally different. From out of love you may experience sexuality, but your love is as a result neither greater nor lesser and that is the whole difference.

You must get to know your feelings

When you are busy with sexuality you are in fact busy with your life and this goes so much further, a thousand times further than feelings. But first you must get to know your feelings. That is to say that you must be able to have feelings for each other. If even they are not there then it will be truly difficult to get along with each other sexually. It becomes prostitution. For it happens that people sell themselves. This is a sham, it is nothing in comparison to what it can be.

Something valuable capable of evolution

For the human being this means that he must search for the deeper sense of life. You may try to approach this depth in a methodical, systematic manner but in life it is not like that. Life can be very changeable. It may be that in being sexually engaged with someone you experience one thing and at another time you experience something else.

This is just like in the world of dreams, where you experience a little something here and a little something there and then when taken all together it constitutes something valuable capable of evolution.

According to the degree to which you delve more deeply into your life, you will see that the sexuality in your life changes in kind and in your experiencing of it. You should take notice of this and use it to help you evolve.

According to the degree to which you delve more deeply into your life, the sexuality in your life will change.

Always hope to find a deeper sense in your life

You should never think, “This is no use, I am involved here in something that is totally hopeless, that is falling apart and has become completely unreasonable.” No, you must always hope that you will find a deeper sense in your life and this is a message I would like to give to people whose sexual life has sometimes reached a dead end. You can and may and must go beyond the feelings.

Feelings challenge us to go further, for living in the feelings you will come to see that sexuality always remains unsatisfactory. It may well give you temporary pleasure, but when you live within the sphere of the feelings, eventually it will become really very boring. 

Yet sexuality always seems to have a challenge in store for us to do things that are not dull and nothing less than what you think they should be.

Living in the feelings you will come to see that sexuality always remains unsatisfactory, giving only temporary pleasure.

The dominant role

When sexuality does not live up to your expectations of what you think it should be, you become discontented with yourself.

Many women are discontented with themselves because men very often play the dominant role in sexuality, which may be natural but which doesn’t work out satisfactorily for the woman. She fails to find her own rhythm within sexuality, and following her feelings it won’t work out. She will be displeased, she will protest and maybe even stop with it altogether. But this could just as well apply to the man. There is no general rule. For if it is possible to be in agreement, then it is nice when it can evolve. But when there is agreement and it cannot evolve, well that is another story. But there is so much to say about this. I won’t go into it right now.


Expressing feelings

It is important that you are able to sense how you feel within sexuality and that you try to express this feeling and that you are so gentle with the other that he, too, can express his feelings. This is really essential, for if you are not careful you will offend the other.

So many things within sexuality are impossible to explain or are difficult to speak about.

This is such a sensitive matter within sexuality. For so many things are impossible to explain or are difficult to speak about because, for one thing, it would be disturbing and, secondly, there is no occasion to do so.

Sexuality is like a flowing stream. It comes and goes and there is so much to experience that the experience itself can vary greatly from one moment to another. It is like an ebb and flow, a rise and a fall. It is composed of thousands of fragments which should all be discussed, but when people do talk about it, only one fragment is drawn to the surface. And that is why you can talk about a single experience in different ways at different moments. 

How do I become myself

A person may very easily say, “It was nothing” and then turn around and say about the selfsame experience “It was everything.” What can you make of that? You still don’t know anything and yet he was being honest, for how can one put it into words? There are so many elements in the experience that it is almost impossible to do so.

So even though you might reflect on it afterwards, you may find it very difficult to discuss. Therefore you should try to look back and reflect on it but you mustn’t work out a programme for the next time, because that is something else altogether.

Still, you should be able to think about it because it is by thinking about it that you can learn how to be yourself in sexuality.

So you mustn’t ask yourself, “How should I do it?” No, instead ask yourself, “How can I become myself?” which is a big difference. If you ask yourself how you should do it, you will never know. But you can find out how to be yourself.

If you ask yourself how you should do it, you will never know. But you can find out how to be yourself.

And you should also be able to ask the other to become himself and be able to ask him to talk about it – but not about how to do it, for each time will be differ­ent.

If you want to know what to do, you had better ask the other to guide you and show you, for that is more useful than words."

Master Morya

Master Morya

Geert Crevits © Mayil.com
Source: “Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life”
from chapter 9: 'About love and sexuality (2)'

Morya Wisdom 1: A deeper sense of life